It’s been three days with no call or text back…you can’t eat, sleep, or work. You’re going to die alone in your bed, gripping your phone, waiting for a response; or at least that’s what your brain keeps telling you. There’s a common flaw that people who chase partners all have in common. Are you an anxious attacher? If you’re still holding your phone hoping they’ll reply then drop it now and pick up this book.
Stop the self-fulfilling prophecy of worrying that your relationships will all end in disaster. Take a deep dive into healing your anxious attachment, learn how to boost your self-esteem and independence, and build a foundation for healthy love.
The Anxious Hearts Guide is a collection of years of psychology research, book recommendations, and strategies to help supercharge your relational health and stop pushing potential partners away. It is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why anxious attachers do the frustrating things that we do for love and how to rise above it.
13 reviews for The Anxious Hearts Guide: Rising Above Anxious Attachment
Rated 5 out of 5
Chris R (verified owner)–
Not overwhelming or too clinical. Just a nice simplified journey through attachment healing. Thank you for not requiring a degree to read, understand and start the healing process.
Rated 5 out of 5
Kate 45 (verified owner)–
Well written and important information for many people
Rated 5 out of 5
Lynn Spotts (verified owner)–
This book was great to read- funny, straightforward, and it felt like a friend talking to me. I am not an anxious heart, but my husband is and this really helped our relationship and gave me a better understanding of where he is coming from.
Rated 5 out of 5
tiana s. dowty (verified owner)–
Very well written. Quick read but very informative. It was nice to know I’m not alone in the way I feel in most of my relationships. I want to change my ways. I’ve really wanted to better understand someone else’s view of my behavior. Thank you for this guide!
Rated 5 out of 5
Jenni (verified owner)–
I like that the book not only talks about the things we struggle with with anxiety but it makes it applicable, with to-do items and examples and homework.
Rated 5 out of 5
Daenergymon (verified owner)–
I really enjoyed the rhetorical questions and personal anecdotes. This book was an easy read along with offering lots of continuing learning. Surprisingly, considering how many of these books I have read, I learned things These type of books tend to be preachy in I made it through and so can you. This has a little of that but with lots of reminders that it takes a lot of hard work
Rated 5 out of 5
Charles Zeringue (verified owner)–
I found this book through a tiktok video and reading it has started me on a huge journey for change that I’ve always needed. It’s given me awareness of behaviors, thoughts, and feelings that I tend to have in romantic relationships that have been completely unconscious until now. Absolutely recommend to anyone struggling with anxious attachment, or anyone who’s in a relationship with an anxiously-attached person. So glad I found this book.
Rated 5 out of 5
Tony the Tiger (verified owner)–
This book allowed me to open my heart to myself in ways I have never known, and is guiding me towards secure attachment. It’s a simple read and the homework questions really allow for deep internal reflection if you are true and honest with yourself! Thank you Rikki. Also her Instagram is a gem as well!!!
Rated 5 out of 5
Tess Myers (verified owner)–
This book is life changing. It has helped me recognize my patterns, gave me the tools necessary to navigate, and has given me the drive to stay committed to a better me. I am able to understand situations and people more clearly, including myself.
Rated 5 out of 5
The Book Lady (verified owner)–
I picked up this book after following the account on social media. I felt this was almost like having a therapist on call. The book taught me about anxious attachment and how to become a more self confident and securely attached person. There are many practical exercises that when implemented can help you become the person you want to be.
Rated 5 out of 5
Paola Murphy (verified owner)–
Wow what An amazing book. I have read it from beginning to end. I bought every one of the books she recommend and also bought the journal. Thank you so much for your amazing work.
Rated 5 out of 5
samuel (verified owner)–
This book has really made me feel seen and heard. As well as gave me tools to help me do more than just survive myself. Thank you so much Rikki 😭
Rated 5 out of 5
Briana (verified owner)–
I’m a therapist with my own therapist doing some work to improve my own anxious tendencies and I found this book immensely helpful. Rikki has a compassionate way of explaining things that helps them sink in, things I often share with others but struggle to apply myself sometimes. This would be helpful for anyone who struggles with feeling anxious while dating or in relationships.
Chris R (verified owner) –
Not overwhelming or too clinical. Just a nice simplified journey through attachment healing.
Thank you for not requiring a degree to read, understand and start the healing process.
Kate 45 (verified owner) –
Well written and important information for many people
Lynn Spotts (verified owner) –
This book was great to read- funny, straightforward, and it felt like a friend talking to me. I am not an anxious heart, but my husband is and this really helped our relationship and gave me a better understanding of where he is coming from.
tiana s. dowty (verified owner) –
Very well written. Quick read but very informative. It was nice to know I’m not alone in the way I feel in most of my relationships. I want to change my ways. I’ve really wanted to better understand someone else’s view of my behavior. Thank you for this guide!
Jenni (verified owner) –
I like that the book not only talks about the things we struggle with with anxiety but it makes it applicable, with to-do items and examples and homework.
Daenergymon (verified owner) –
I really enjoyed the rhetorical questions and personal anecdotes. This book was an easy read along with offering lots of continuing learning.
Surprisingly, considering how many of these books I have read, I learned things
These type of books tend to be preachy in I made it through and so can you. This has a little of that but with lots of reminders that it takes a lot of hard work
Charles Zeringue (verified owner) –
I found this book through a tiktok video and reading it has started me on a huge journey for change that I’ve always needed. It’s given me awareness of behaviors, thoughts, and feelings that I tend to have in romantic relationships that have been completely unconscious until now. Absolutely recommend to anyone struggling with anxious attachment, or anyone who’s in a relationship with an anxiously-attached person. So glad I found this book.
Tony the Tiger (verified owner) –
This book allowed me to open my heart to myself in ways I have never known, and is guiding me towards secure attachment. It’s a simple read and the homework questions really allow for deep internal reflection if you are true and honest with yourself! Thank you Rikki. Also her Instagram is a gem as well!!!
Tess Myers (verified owner) –
This book is life changing. It has helped me recognize my patterns, gave me the tools necessary to navigate, and has given me the drive to stay committed to a better me. I am able to understand situations and people more clearly, including myself.
The Book Lady (verified owner) –
I picked up this book after following the account on social media. I felt this was almost like having a therapist on call. The book taught me about anxious attachment and how to become a more self confident and securely attached person. There are many practical exercises that when implemented can help you become the person you want to be.
Paola Murphy (verified owner) –
Wow what An amazing book. I have read it from beginning to end. I bought every one of the books she recommend and also bought the journal. Thank you so much for your amazing work.
samuel (verified owner) –
This book has really made me feel seen and heard. As well as gave me tools to help me do more than just survive myself. Thank you so much Rikki 😭
Briana (verified owner) –
I’m a therapist with my own therapist doing some work to improve my own anxious tendencies and I found this book immensely helpful. Rikki has a compassionate way of explaining things that helps them sink in, things I often share with others but struggle to apply myself sometimes. This would be helpful for anyone who struggles with feeling anxious while dating or in relationships.