It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B013D6640M
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Penguin Life (April 26, 2016)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ April 26, 2016
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2409 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 251 pages
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A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field

Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn’t Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.

As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn’t Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn’t Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.


23 reviews for It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

  1. Jacquelyn

    5.0 out of 5 stars Wow!

    I haven’t finished this yet, but what I have read has been literally life changing. I can’t explain it… This is going to help amazingly with breaking those curses I don’t want passed to my kids, and hopefully it will help me create less trauma for my kids with the understanding I have now.

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  2. Karin Romero

    5.0 out of 5 stars Changed my life

    This book changed my life, the questions that it asks the reflections on your life that it makes you do are the ones that you need to work on those parts of your life you didn’t understand. Because it was really intense it took my a while to finish it but it was really worth it.

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  4. Kristie B.

    5.0 out of 5 stars Helped me big time

    Going through this book, I finally got some understanding as to why things in my mind are the way they are. I thought I was getting a self help book. What I got instead was a very well written explanation with scientific rationale provided. It was a pleasant surprise and definitely well worth it.

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  5. Juan Jose Dougherty

    5.0 out of 5 stars great healing book

    We all carry weight from our ancestors and we tend to bring it into our lives, this book will help you remove all that weight and leave it behind, and even help you with some of the damage that has created already in your life

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  6. Kaylin Calhoun

    5.0 out of 5 stars thought provoking and deep

    This book helps guide a lot of self reflection and prompt resolution of past traumas. There are lots of exercises and suggestions on how to walk yourself thru improving these core beliefs that live in the subconscious. You must be prepared to do the exercises brought forth by the book in order to get the full value of it so it is not a quick read if you do the steps. Very interesting read and would recommend to anyone looking to heal from traumas and generational curses.

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  7. Samard Walker

    5.0 out of 5 stars Changed my life!

    I was recommended this book and now I recommend this book to everyone dealing with unresolved trauma as an adult. Be gentle with yourselves.

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  8. Vero

    5.0 out of 5 stars the best book about family trauma ever !!!

    words cannot explain how much i loved reading this book, it’s so well explained and helped me understand so much about myself and about my traumas, I just absolutely love this book, i was stunned when i read something’s that have exactly happened to me in this book,for everyone dealing with family trauma this book is your best friend❤️

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  9. Cary Zigman

    5.0 out of 5 stars excellent book

    This book was well written with scientific support, documented case studies and personal antidotes. I highly recommend this book! Gave me a greater insight into my own personal history.

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  10. Hannah Colón

    5.0 out of 5 stars Get it

    If you have family trauma and are trying to break the cycle, but this. Buy with one click. Just do it. Bought a copy for my mom and have recommended it to so many people.

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  11. Ama Zon client

    5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring book!

    Book came in prefect condition!

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  12. Lorraine Taylor

    5.0 out of 5 stars This book gives me ideas to help conquer the trauma I experienced as a child

    Made me feel better

    Helpful? 6 0
  13. Shastell

    5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book

    I wanted to find something that I could connect with an help me mentally, an its been helping me alot, I love it

    Helpful? 6 0
  14. Margie

    5.0 out of 5 stars Book

    I have not read it yet, it seems to be interesting. If you are suffering you will read just about any thing

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  15. charity baker

    5.0 out of 5 stars A must read to say the least

    This is one of those books that is hard to put down. Very interesting and loved it has written exercises to help you determine your family trauma.

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  16. Tara

    5.0 out of 5 stars Buen libro

    Llegó a tiempo y es un excelente libro para entender un poco lo que venimos arrastrando de nuestros antepasados.

    Helpful? 5 0
  17. Tam M.

    5.0 out of 5 stars Good read for anyone holding on to family baggage

    You will have to work on it to get rid of or change things. Very good read. I understand things in a whole new way.

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  18. Seidy G

    5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book!

    This is a good read!
    It would also make a great gift for those who are dealing with family issues. It explains a lot of the DNA side of trauma and how it can be passed down.

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  19. ebony

    5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommend

    This is a really good read if anyone wants to understand inherited trauma and begin healing themselves I definitely recommend this book!

    Helpful? 4 0
  20. addalina1

    5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing book

    This book is awesome, my entire family is reading it.

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  21. lisa

    5.0 out of 5 stars Great Read

    This is a great read. Definitely Worth the price. You learn alot in this book
    I grateful that my friend convinced me to buy it.

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  22. Casey

    5.0 out of 5 stars Great book.

    Very informative. Great ideas.

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  23. Scott Dugan

    5.0 out of 5 stars GOOD BUY


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